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See the Beauty & Be the Beauty

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If I could only paint you a beautiful picture

Showing you the wonders that await you

So I choose to use my words instead

No rhymes and maybe less than eloquent

But, perhaps you’ll still see the beauty within

 

Spacious mountains and crystal clear waters

Beautiful flowers, statuesque trees, & cute animals

I want you to see it all over the years

As they all change and grow, so will you

I hope that you see the beauty that surrounds us

 

More than just what you can see with your eyes

I hope that you can see and appreciate much more

The beauty within the souls of those in your life

May you see the kindness, gentility, and grace

And may you also possess these traits yourself

 

May you show kindness to others, even on a rough day

Show compassion and understanding to those who need it

And yet be firm when the situation calls for it as well

See the beauty all around you and be the beauty for others

That is my sincerest prayer for you, my darling daughter.

Inner Beauty & the Beast

 

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Today’s topic is about being able to see beauty more in someone’s character than in their outward appearance. There is nothing wrong with admiring one’s outward beauty, but so many times, people are overlooked because they’re not as “fetching” as others. It’s more than that, often times, too. Some can be outright cruel to those they don’t find beautiful.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it’s true. This applies to both inner and outer beauty. What boggles my mind though is why it is seemingly more difficult to appreciate the inner beauties and strengths. As I mentioned before, there’s nothing wrong with admiring someone who is outwardly attractive to us, but shouldn’t we do much more to admire what lies within as well?

I have seen many memes over the years that say things along the lines of, “It doesn’t matter how pretty you are on the outside if you have an ugly heart.” How true those words really are! I have met many people that I find pleasing to look at, but not to talk to or to know. Just because one is lovely to look at doesn’t mean they are equally pleasing to befriend. And just because one is plain, average, or maybe ugly in our eyes doesn’t mean they’re ugly within either!!!! That old saying, “You can’t judge a book by its cover.” should carry more weight.

Yet, first impressions do hold much sway over us and what are the first things we notice when we meet someone? We notice how they look and how they carry themselves. Oh but were I like Sherlock Holmes, able to detect so much from seeing so little and so quickly too! We’re all guilty of looking at someone and coming up with conclusions without really knowing someone, but often, we don’t know as much as we think we do. There is so much more to someone than what we see in a single encounter or even a few meetings.

Were we to delve more into one than how they dressed, their hair, whether they slouch or stand up straight, or even their mood that particular moment. Sometimes we get or give the worst and then depart with unpleasant thoughts about one another. We, as humans, are both simple and complex beings. Why are we so quick to judge? Why are we unable to see the beauty within someone simply because we don’t find them appealing to look at? When we have one bad experience, why does it leave such a bad taste in our mouths that we don’t want to give someone another chance? Maybe they just had a bad day and acted too rashly, but perhaps are really an amazing person. Haven’t we all taken our bad days out on someone?

There is so much beauty surrounding us and sure, I mean nature, but I also mean people. If we were to open our minds, expand our horizons, and be more willing to see the beauty where perhaps we once didn’t, what a grand place this might really be. That lady over there who is a little too heavy for your tastes might have the most beautiful voice you ever heard or maybe if you looked closer, you’d find her smile to be stunning. The guy you think is nothing more than a lazy hippie may actually be brilliant and have the softest heart you’ve ever encountered. The black girl you don’t want to notice because of her color may be seen as gorgeous if you’d see beyond your prejudice. The man who has been losing his hair and not dress so sharply might have the kindest laugh and sweetest demeanor. Can we not try to see more in what we see? Can we find the beauty within ones we normally might not at first glance? May we look again? Might we stop being the beasts we sometimes are and show the beauty too that we have to offer?

Family Dynamics & How to Survive

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I told myself today that I need to write more. I used to write a lot. Writing has been a form of expression and solace for me since fifth grade. Usually when I was at my lowest, if I turned to writing, I was able to start healing. Between writing and music, I have found a cheaper way to vent and mend than therapy. I am highly disappointed in myself for not turning to writing more in the recent past. I need to challenge my writing skills and need to bring more creativity into my life.

I asked my Facebook family to give me ideas today so that I may begin writing once again, as I felt a block when it came to what to write about. Also, what better way to find out what people would want to read about than to ask the very people you’re trying to reach out to. Two of my friends responded. One wants me to write about encouragement, faith, hope, love, and the like and the other wants me to write about family. I am going to do my best to write about both. Let’s see how this develops.

My experiences with family have been all over the board. Growing up, I saw most came from the stereotypical perfect family: Mom, Dad, a couple of kids, and maybe a pet or two. For me though, it was my mom and I for so long. Enter in a boyfriend now and then, but most of my childhood it was just us. I met my dad when I was 10. Then, I found out I have a step-mom and three younger siblings. At 13, nearly 14, I was put into foster care and learned about yet another family dynamic. I have come to learn that families come in all shapes and sizes. There isn’t a perfect type of family. I have also learned that no matter how happy a family may seem, there’s always struggles. You may see happy faces on the walls smiling at you, but there’s often sorrow, strife, hurt, and more behind those happy faces.

Family should be close knit, bound by blood first, but by love even more. Even when it is, it will face issues over the years. I have felt love and loathing within my family. I have known kindness and treachery. Sometimes the ones that hurt us the most are those we’re related to and sometimes the ones we’re closest to are our friends, who form yet another family dynamic. Not all families are bound by blood. When asked what a family is, I don’t have a concrete answer. I will tell you what I think a family should be though.

A family, whether bound by blood or not, should encourage one another. A family should lift its members up and not tear one another down. A family should have faith in one another, feeling in their souls the love and loyalty from one another. A family should not dictate who is worthy of love and instead if they see a member struggling or going down a path they ought not, reach out and try to help. Sometimes people can’t or simply don’t want to be helped and sometimes you need to distance yourself from another, but to outright turn your back on one without even trying to understand, without trying to be there just seems wrong to me. I have had family members turn their backs on me and on others simply because of the mistakes we made and deeming us unworthy of their love, help, and support. I think that is why it is hard for me to walk away from anyone, family or otherwise. I know how it feels to have people turn their backs on me and it hurts, so I try with all I have to be there for others. Families are not and should never be expected to be perfect. We all, as individuals and groups, fall and make mistakes. It should then be our desire, when one falls, is to help one another back up. I have, perhaps too grand, big ideas of what family should be, but I don’t believe any of it is unobtainable, not when people are committed to working together. No one should let any of the weight fall on one or a few members, but let it be upon us all.

How to survive family life may sound easy to some and extremely difficult to others. For while family should be a force that bands together, sadly, it’s often not. Sometimes we tear one another down and make life extremely difficult for ourselves and those around us. Some do stick together and make family look like something amazing. But having known some of these wonderful families, I see that they too need to work to make their relationships with one another work. Any relationship needs to be worked on. If ever we feel that we’re at a good place and stop, then it will begin to fall apart. We need to keep at it. Marriages, friendships, working relationships, family ties, and the like all require work, effort, time, respect, communication, and loyalty. For me, I have found that I survive my various family dynamics by knowing every individual is just that, an individual. Every one of them is different and I can’t treat each person the same. But, I do try to give each person in my life respect, loyalty, kindness, and love. I also try to communicate, to keep in touch, to let them know when there needs to be something worked on, and when I am very happy by how things are going as well. We face issues, but I try to face them head on and together. If we try to fight through our struggles alone, how can they be fixed? One sided effort fails, but when people come together, so much is possible.

Family isn’t perfect, life is far from it even more so. But, united we stand and divided we fall. My goal is to keep working on the bonds I have formed and to form even more. I plan to never stop working on my relationships, but also plan to get better at knowing when to walk away from something, knowing when to keep trying and when enough is enough. I am far from as wise as I can possibly be, but I feel I can let the wisdom I have gained in 38 years guide me and to help me learn more, about myself and those around me. I hope to grow my faith, both in God and in others. I hope to learn how to encourage others more and learn to accept it from others better as well. Family can show us so much, if we’re willing to see it and learn from one another. We all have our ugly sides, but together we can open our eyes to the beautiful ones as well.

Be your own superhero…

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Growing up I thought that it was be awesome if I could fly, walk through walls, change the weather, etc. I wanted to be a magical being with superpowers. I would defend the world, one villain at a time. How awesome would it be to like one of the X-Men or maybe the Avengers perhaps?

I have come to see now that all you need to do to be a superhero is to lend a helping hand, be a good friend, treat the world with kindness, and touch people’s hearts. And well hey, sometimes I think just getting out of bed and tackling the day ahead is a superpower. 😉

Many think, “I’m just one person, what can I really do?” But all it takes is one person, a spark to change things. So be that spark, set things ablaze. Go be that superhero, though many of them who wear masks….don’t be afraid to show the world who you really are.

Love Shouldn’t Be Bought, But Merely Given

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Join me for a little pre-Valentine’s Day rant

Though before I begin, let me set the record straight

I’m not single, bitter, & jaded, though I once was

Happily taken am I, but my views on this day are ones I won’t recant

 

My view is and has always been this about love & devotion

We should show one another how much we care

But not just on designated days, but throughout the year

Why do so many let the calendar dictate when we show our emotions?

 

And why should we feel compelled to let money fill our needs?

Gifts are nice, but random acts of kindness mean so much more

Like a handwritten note on a napkin, back massage, or perhaps helping out with chores

Not individually, but as a whole, we’ve become a nation full of greed

 

They say that love, friendship, and the like are free

And that is how it should be, not having to spend to show our feelings

It sickens me when I see people talk about how much their beau should spend

For if they really love them, surely it shouldn’t be difficult to cough up the money

 

I know many who aren’t greedy & while a gift is nice to receive

They know it’s the little things that count the most

But, there are too many out there who don’t see things that way

Life is only great when there are gifts to retrieve

 

For me, flowers, candy, and the like are nice things

But I don’t need them to know how much someone cares

Hugs, kisses, laughter, & being able to make happy memories is what matters most

Love is shown best by the way you treat me, not pretty packages tied up with strings

 

So this Valentine’s Day, I choose to spend it without spending

My beau & I both agreed that what matters most is the love we share

So a quiet night in to watch movies, play cards, & cuddle on the couch is what we will do

Focusing not on store bought gifts, but on a love we share that’s unending

 

***NOTE***

For those who want to celebrate the day, I am not saying you shouldn’t. The celebration of love is wonderful, but stop and think about this…is it really necessary to spend a lot of money to show the ones you love how you feel? Make a handmade card, cook something special instead of going out to eat, help your kids make handmade cards for the kids in their class, etc. And if you really feel compelled to spend money, buy one flower instead of a dozen or buy the smaller box of chocolates. It shouldn’t be about quantity, but quality. If your love is real, long lasting, & true…those special in your life won’t be heartbroken that you didn’t spend much. The thought really does count. And hey, remember this when/if you celebrate as well, it’s not just about sweethearts. Love is about family & friendships as well. Celebrate love, all love, and all year long whenever the mood strikes. ❤

Today Is Here

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Love those you have in your life right now because we’re never promised a tomorrow. Each day we’re given is a blessing, even the ones that don’t feel like one. Life is short, especially when one considers the scope of eternity. Even if one lives to be 100 years old, that time is but a blink of an eye in forever’s mind. I can’t tell any of you to never worry, to never be upset, to never get angry, to never feel pain, or to never be sad because it’s all a part of life. But I can say this, also do your best to give as well as take, show kindness, feel hope, be a friend, smile, laugh, know joy, and to both feel and give love. Today is here and it’s yours to mold, use your time wisely. ❤

Merry Christmas to all!

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I won’t be online much after this morning for a little while. We begin our traveling and family festivities today and I am so excited. To me, Christmas is first about celebrating the birth of my Lord and Savior. Second, it is about celebrating love. I want to give the love I have for others throughout the year, no matter what day it is on the calendar, but during this season…when so many struggle financially and emotionally, all the more do I want to do this. Third, it is about family & friends, our most cherished loved ones. I have spent some holidays alone and it isn’t a fun experience. I have also spent some of them with friends because they didn’t want me to be alone. I am grateful for their love, kindness, and hospitality. When I am given the chance to do the same for others, I do because I know how it feels to spend them alone and want to help others feel loved and remind them they’re not alone. Fourth, while it’s not truly about the presents, I will admit it feels good to give and to receive. God teaches us to give, encourages us to do so, and so this is why I do it…not to dishonor Him by putting up decorations and buying gifts…forgetting about Him….no, this is to honor Him and what He wants us all to do…to love one another and to give of our love, time, and whatever we can to those around us.

This year, we will be incredibly busy. When you’re in a serious relationship, things change. It’s no longer about just me, it’s about us. So, we’ll be going to some of his family celebrations and then also to some of mine. We are family now and so this is how that goes. 😉 Oh, it will be crazy with all the traveling, the bad weather afoot, and so on….but like I said earlier, I am so very excited. I will get to see people I so rarely get to spend time with. Throughout the year, they’re so busy, but this is the one time we all gather together. Family means so much to me. I hope all of you who read this has a very Merry Christmas! To those who don’t celebrate Christmas, whatever it is, may it be full of love, family, and togetherness. If you don’t celebrate anything, then still I wish for you good days filled with happiness, friendship, and love. It doesn’t matter what day it is, what season, what holiday, or any of that…I try to celebrate love every single day of the year. ❤

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