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John, We Miss You

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As yet another soul leaves us
Tears are shed & hearts are broken
So young, still had so much potential
Why? Why was it his time now?
What we wouldn’t give to see him again

As our emotions are stretched thin
And we try to find solace from within
We find that we’re at a loss
How do you say goodbye to yet another friend?
How do you expect our hearts to mend?

“I’m sorry for your loss”
“My condolences” 
Are just a few things many will say
And while we know they mean well
None of that can bring him back

They say time heals all wounds
But that just isn’t true
Things never go back to the way they were
And the hole in your heart that they left
Well, it’s never filled

All that we can do is try to honor their memory
By living the rest of our days to the fullest
Somehow, through the pain
To keep moving forward
Though that sometimes seems impossible

John, I barely knew you
But some of my closest friends knew you well
I pray that in their time of sadness
That they will come together to honor your memory
By loving one another with all they have

You, along with many others we have lost along the way
Will never be forgotten within our hearts
You touched our lives in such a profound way
Wherever you are now, I hope that you know
You may be gone, but your light will live on in us

 

(Dedicated to John Moebs, may this honor you….may this honor all of the friends we have lost in recent past. Too many have left us and it has felt way too soon for us to have to say goodbye. We miss you all. I hope that we do our best to honor your memory by living lives filled with laughter, friendship, joy, and love.)

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The Small Things In Life….

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Life is often remembered by milestones such as one’s birth, baptism, big birthdays, graduations, engagements, marriages, having their own children, grandchildren, and of course one’s death. We put so much consideration into the “big” events that sometimes we forget about the “small” things.

I want to celebrate all of life’s joys, from the big to the small. Every hug, smile, laugh, song I sing, good meal, good book I read, snuggle time with my son, holding hands with the man I love, watching my pets sleep, and so much more are so important and deserve their own recognition.

Remembering isn’t always easy, but I don’t want to forget….

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November 17th, 2012 was a day that shook up the lives of many people, people I would come to know and love. My boyfriend and I had only been dating for a month at the time. We’d just gone out the night before in fact to celebrate. That day we were supposed to meet up at a friend’s for their daughter’s birthday party. I received a text from him that day that said there’d been a family emergency, so he’d be unable to attend. I was curious, but I did not pry. I went about my business and did what I could to help make Hali’s birthday party a success. Hali did have a good time and so looking back on that day now, there was some sunshine upon that day to be grateful for….

Well, anyway, I eventually went back home to check on my grandma, whom I was taking care of at the time. I told my friend I might be back to keep her company. She had an apartment full of pre-teen girls, so having another adult there would be appreciated. 😉 When I was at home and I was settling in for the evening, my boyfriend messaged me online and told me what was going on. His mother died that day. She had cut herself and then they think she second guessed what she was doing and tried to get help, as she was headed in the direction of the hospital. No one knows for sure, but we’re hoping. She crashed the car, they think she might have passed out from the pain. Her faith in God was strong, but she’d been dealing with a lot lately, a lot that no one really understood. My heart broke instantly upon reading Doug’s words. I didn’t know what to do. I hadn’t met his family yet, we were a new couple, and I wanted to approach this in appropriately, only I wasn’t sure how. (I did go back to my friend’s, needed emotional support and she needed the company. It was good to have her to talk to that night.)

The next day was bowling league and he showed up. He told us he probably would because he needed to get his mind off things. He was a bit rough for the wear, as was to be expected. We told him he did not need to be there, but he stayed, and did the best he could. We gave him love and support. He told me later that his dad wanted me to come to the funeral. They had been wanting to meet me, granted not under these circumstances, but he felt I should be there. I had told Doug it was up to him, whether he felt it inappropriate for me to be there or if he needed me to stand beside him. When he told me he wanted me there and that his family wanted me to come, I decided to go.

The wake/visitation was rough. His dad hugged me when he met me, fell apart in my arms. I broke down a bit, but I held him. I hugged so many people that day, many I don’t remember today. There was a lot of crying, some laughing too as they recalled memories of her. I was told by more than one person they were glad I was there to support Doug. I know now, it was the right place to be, by his side. It’s where I want to be for the rest of my life, through the extremely good and the heartbreakingly tough. We’re approaching the one year mark since she died. Sunday is going to be very emotional for him and his family. I will be right where I was a year ago, holding his hand and supporting him. His family is wonderful and I am glad I have been able to get to know them. Many times I wish I had gotten to meet them under better circumstances and more so, that I had gotten to meet his mom, alive. But, I have gotten to know her in a different way. I am grateful for the pictures I have seen, the stories I have heard, and I think the greatest part of her I see is in her children. She and Phil raised three wonderful children, all driven to succeed, who have outstanding morals, and have such warm and giving hearts. Her legacy shall live on through them and her grandchildren, as well as the rest of her family and her friends. So many people miss her and Sunday will be rough, but love will help us through. It is not easy to deal with death, even though it’s something we all face. But, with God’s love and grace….and time, we won’t fully heal, but we’ll make it.

When My Time Comes

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There’s so much left to do

I’d like to cross the oceans blue

See lands far away

Upon foreign grasses lay

 

I want to see my son continue to grow

Him as an adult, I’d like to know

His path is yet unknown

Will I perhaps see him have a family of his own?

 

I’ve only begun to live my life

One day I hope to become my love’s wife

Journey together through life as one

Until my time on earth is done

 

More laughter and joy are yet to be had

For many more years left I’d be glad

So that I may share the love in my heart

For as long as I can till it’s my time to depart

 

But as I have come to learn

None of us knows how long our candles will burn

So while there is yet light

I strive to live my life right

 

When my time does come to pass

Sprinkle my ashes on my home land’s grass

Do not wear black to say goodbye

Wear colors many to celebrate my life

 

I can’t tell you not to cry

It’s always difficult to say goodbye

But do try to smile if you can

A celebration of a full life lived, make that your plan

 

Someone sing, “I’ll Fly Away” for me

It doesn’t matter if it’s off key

Bow your heads as it’s sung

Then lift them high after the last note has rung

 

Share pictures and stories from our times together

Know that even in death, our bond will not sever

A happy, stubborn, & loving klutz was I

Let the love we shared twinkle in the sky

 

I pray that I still have many years left to live

I still have so much left to give

But whether my days yet are many or few

I’ve been blessed to know and love all of you

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Thoughts on driving & texting….

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My cousin posted a petition in her state about making texting while driving a more serious offense. I have to say that I agree with her, people need to held more accountable than they are when it comes to this. Accidents and deaths related to being on your phone while driving are increasing. I feel that when you’re driving, your focus should be on the road, not on your phone.

I feel that if you’re caught texting and such while driving, you should receive more than just a slap on the wrist or a tiny fine. I think it should be treated much like drunk driving. Your judgement is impaired because you’re focusing more on whomever you’re talking to and often times your mood is elevated and you’re not thinking clearly. Either pull over or let it wait until you’re wherever you’re headed. If it results in a death, you should serve time. This is my personal thoughts on the matter. 

I think awareness should be raised all over the country, all over the world. Focus on the roads people, lives are at stake.

So Close & Yet Worlds Apart

A seemingly quiet beach I roamed

Warm sand beneath my feet

Quieting my mind of all thoughts

Seeking peace and tranquility

No worries, cares, or voices to tug at me

 

It’s easier to find a quiet place

Than it is to quiet the mind

The voices try to break free

Emotions try to overwhelm me

“SEE ME!”, they all cry

 

Sometimes we just need a moment totally alone

Fully free from everything

Even ourselves, if that makes any sense

So I chose this place of beauty to seclude myself

Even if for only a little while

 

With great will power, I manage to quiet my mind

Staring at the calm water

The sun is hot

But the breeze lightly touches my tanned skin

The elements are kind to me today

 

I sit and as time goes by, my eyes begin to droop

The day fades away while I slumber

I wake to see the sky has painted a beautiful array of colors

My limbs are stiff as I try to stretch

I know that I must return to reality though

 

I grab my bag and pull myself to my feet

The sand is still warm beneath them

I purposefully walk slowly towards civilization

As the grogginess wears off

The voices within me begin to wake

 

“It’s been long enough, hear me now!”, they shout

Okay, fine, but one at a time I think grudgingly

I see my car as I finally get to the lot

But it is not alone

Next to my silver friend is a small blue Toyota

 

I don’t see anyone about

There was no evidence of anyone when I was out

But who knows, the beach is pretty big

Maybe there is another soul here trying to find quiet

I think little of it as I get into my car to leave

 

I walk through the door and sounds of life greet me

Norbert lovingly nudges my leg

The smells of grilled chicken meets my nose

“Honey, how was your soul searching?”

“Mom, hey can Tanner come over later?”

 

I get back to the hustle and bustle of life

Dinner with my family, a walk with my hubby and dog

Clean up time, watching my boys play the Wii

Making calls, setting up appointments

Settling in for the night

 

As I turn on the nightly news

I am greeted by a familiar sight

There is the beach I was at today

They found a nineteen year old boy dead

A couple miles down from where I’d been

 

Was that the one who had the blue Toyota?

They said it was suicide

There was a note in his car

His girlfriend had left him, lost his job

Felt alone and yet he wasn’t, only I didn’t know

 

It saddened me that even when two can be so close in distance

They can be worlds apart

My heart ached for the young man

Would I have been able to help had I wandered a little further?

Could his life had been saved?

 

I know it’s not my fault

I had no way of knowing he was there

Or what was going on

I didn’t even know him

And yet I feel so bad

 

A young life is lost

People out there grieve for him

Friends and family have to say goodbye

I cry for the life lost today

And cherish those around me just a little bit more

A thought I just had that I wanted to share….

So many of us rely too heavily on others to make us happy and to keep us happy. Husbands & wives, boyfriends & girlfriends, co-workers, friends, children and parents, on down the line to even the people we deal with at the gas station, grocery store, etc etc. want so much from one another and act put out when things don’t pan out the way they want them to. We’re all going to let one another down from time to time and while some may have the best of intentions, no one can be here for us always and forever. One day, each of us is going to die, going to leave others behind. It hurts when one we love passes, it’s like tearing a piece of our hearts out of our chests and that empty place never fully heals. Death is unavoidable, but so is the pain it causes those left behind. Some say, well why even bother attaching your heart to anyone when you know one day they’ll be gone or you’ll just hurt them when you pass on? Why? Life would be rather lonely and pointless if we didn’t love. We shouldn’t count on anyone to make us and keep us happy, that happiness needs to come from being content with who we are as individuals first…though I firmly believe there’s nothing wrong with admitting that the presence of others enriches our lives, brings us joy. We’re meant to love one another and bring joy and light to one another. However, we must learn how to be happy on our own as well. How can we truly be happy with others if we’re not first happy with who we are? It’s easier to bring that light and love to one another if we’re already content in life. Don’t mind me, just in an odd mood at the moment. ♥

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