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The right path isn’t always paved with gold….

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Sometimes the path most worn, most traveled looks like the safest and best one to follow. I mean, if many take this path, it can’t be bad, right? It looks easy and safe, so why not? I don’t have time for bumps, puddles, or any obstacles really, so I’ll just play it safe.

I have felt these things myself plenty over the years, but something I’ve often found is that taking the way most traveled or the seemingly easier path just led to more problems than I had before. Sometimes what we want most is not just so easy to get, but we can be an impatient sort, can’t we? 😉

I’ve heard people say that if it’s worth it, it’s going to take patience and hard work. Now and then, we do happen upon good things, but often, we do need to work for it and we have to be willing to wait. Sometimes, we’ll stumble, fall, and end up looking and feeling pretty worn out and sometimes we’ll even end up not getting what we want. But when failure, rejection, or disappointment leaves us feeling defeated, we shouldn’t give up. No one gets everthing right the first time or even the 50th and really, no one gets everything they want period.

We all face hearing no, not getting our way, not getting something right, failure, and disappointment. The most successful aren’t those that seemingly get things right every single time or who have it all. They’re those that have felt defeated and let down, but kept on going. They are the ones who don’t quit and the ones who know that it’ll be worth it in the end to travel that bumpy road.

I sometimes want to make a break for the smooth path for a bit, to catch my breath, but I just end up swimming through raging currents in the end. With each wrong step, I try to see them as lessons now. And now, instead of feeling ashamed, I use them as tools to inspire others. We all fall, knowing that can be uplifting, when we see how they made it through. I know that’s been the case for me, so I want to do the same for you.

Whether you’re on high ground, feeling pretty good or stuck in a ditch, feeling hopeless, never forget, neither one lasts. We can all help one another too, remember that as well. We can use our journey, the good parts and the bad ones, to inspire others. You use your success or your failures to help someone. The one who is hurting can see that you’ve struggled and that you have found your way out and the one who is doing well can use that as well, to fuel their journey onward and upward.

What we want may not cone easily or at all, but we ought to keep trying and throughout, let our stories help one another. May we give hope, courage, compassion, and love to those around us and may we be willing to accept it when given in return. It certainly makes things a lot better, to have others to share your journey with.

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Another year gone, another just beginning…

2017 is over, wow. I remember the 1980’s, how is it 2018 now? *shakes head* Last year was a roller coaster of highs and lows, as I suppose is true of every year.

My son has been struggling. He’s been getting into trouble, so much acting out and defiance. He’s unhappy at his dad’s, which I know is part of the reason he’s been in trouble. I think he’s got mental health issues, which his dad isn’t dealing with. Part of it too is he’s just not making good choices. We have court soon to try to switch primary placement back to me. I’m hoping the judge sees that a change is needed, that him coming home is what’s best for him. In the end, I think it’ll be what’s best for everyone. I’m tired of watching my son suffer and I’m tired of watching him throw his future away. I hope 2018 brings change for the better for him. He’s a bright young man that can have a wonderful future, but things need to get turned around somehow.

My daughter turned one last year and now she’s nearly two. She’s grown, learned, and changed so much. She’s so inquisitive and I love watching her figure things out. She’s gotten sassier, those terrible two days have come. But even with the challenges, it’s been a great year with her. I love spending my days with her. Her laugh is contagious! When she smiles at me, wants to cuddle, plays with me, shows me she’s understanding what I’m saying, or does something new, it makes my day better. I can hardly wait to see how she grows and learns this year.

My marriage hit a couple of bumps, as have our finances, but we’ve tackled everything head on, together. We’ve faced loss, the death of his grandma hit his family, the death of my aunt hit mine and I’ve lost friends. It’s been hard, but we’ve helped one another get through each day. Marriage, parenthood, and all relationships are maintained one moment, one day at a time. I think 2018 will be better, because we work to make it so.

My first year in business went far beyond my expectations. I met so many wonderful people, some of whom became friends. I’ve learned a lot and aim to continue learning. I expanded my studio, so I can accommodate bigger families. I started doing weddings, newborn sessions, cake smash sessions, adult milestone sessions, etc. I hope to add more styles/types of sessions to my repertoire. I’m excited to see where 2018 takes me and my business.

Here’s to an incredible year we’ve left, may the lessons we’ve learned and great memories we’ve made stay with us. Here’s to a great year ahead, may we continue to learn, grow, and enjoy life while we can.

20 Minute Writing Exercise

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Thanks to the post I saw on Sharon‘s page, I decided to write freely for 20 minutes without thinking what I am going to write about and see what I end up with. To tell you the truth, I am not exactly sure what to say, but well, I am sure I will come up with something. I think I hyper-extended my thumb in the car accident and man does typing ever hurt right now. Clutching things is even worse. Meh, I will survive. It’s been hot and humid today. As much as the humidity and allergy season bothers me, I am grateful that the snow and cold are gone for a little while. I love it when things are green and full of life. Just seeing the brightly colored flowers, the green lawns, people out riding their bikes/walking/etc, and of course smelling the food cooking on the grills throughout the city makes me so happy. This is when I am at my best, late spring and early summer. I really do not care for winter, but I was born here and too much keeps me here right now. Maybe someday I will move away, maybe. But maybe not, only time will tell. I know that I will be here at least until my son graduates high school. I moved around a lot and that was hard for me. I don’t want my son to have to deal with all of that if I can help it. He already has a split home and that is enough for him to deal with already. Though he seems to be well adjusted to that now and it does help that he now has a positive male and female role model in both homes. The four of us work together to try and give Zach the best life possible. It was difficult when his dad and I didn’t talk much and when we did, it often resulted in arguing. It’s nice that things are finally good, that we can all communicate. Communication is key, in all relationships. Doug and I have that and that’s nice. I never had that before, someone I could really communicate with, be totally open and honest with and know that he won’t judge me, that he will listen, and that if he has something to say, he won’t hold back. Sometimes what we’re thinking or feeling doesn’t mesh with the other and it can be difficult, but we always hear one another out, and even when we don’t agree, we respect one another and their viewpoint. It’s been over a year and a half since we got together and we still haven’t had what many would consider an actual fight. I think that’s because we communicate so well. It’s really wonderful. I don’t know how I ended up with someone as wonderful as he is. But I know he thinks I am pretty special too. We balance one another out and he is great with my son, which is extremely important. I am so tired and I think I am going to fall asleep fast tonight or at least I hope so. I sure need rest after today. I sure hope that my ramblings made some sort of sense. I think I talked about a lot tonight, but this is pretty much how I talk out loud. I hope I didn’t bore anyone, ha ha. This exercise is kind of interesting, just letting my mind wander…which means I am letting it do what it frequently does anyway. I still have to put my lunch together for tomorrow. I already laid my clothes out. It helps to do this the night before because it leaves me with less to do/figure out the next day. I like to be prepared and well, I am also not a morning person, so this lets me sleep in a little longer too. *grins* Oh, my hand is really hurting. Has it been 20 minutes yet? Let me check, nope, 19. Okay, so what can I say in one minute? I’d be able to say a lot more if the space bar on our laptop didn’t stick, good grief ha ha. Well, at least it works and is a lot faster than my p.c. I think it’s time for me to get off the computer, well after I post this anyway. Ta da, it’s been 20 minutes! I think I did alright. Well, goodnight one and all. God Bless! ❤

This Just In….

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I was just notified that I now have 400 people subscribed to my blog! Holy wowzers Batman! Thank you to all who read my blog, support my writing, and hey…you’re all really amazing, hope you know that and just how much I appreciate all of you! Thank you for inspiring me and for continuing to allow me to inspire you as well! This has been an incredible journey and I am so glad to be on it with all of you! Seriously, you have no idea how humbled and elated I am at the very moment. I don’t always have something to say when I read your blogs, look at your artwork, or listen to your videos…but know that I do pay attention and love being a part of your journeys as well. Let’s continue this amazing ride, shall we? 🙂

As the number goes up, the more humbled I get….

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WordPress told me today that I reached 300 subscribers to my blog. Since I saw that, the number went up five more. So right now, I have 305 people reading my blog. Wow, seriously, I am so thankful for each and every one of you for your support. Your support means more to me than I can say. Every like, comment, follow, re-blog makes me smile. Thank you for letting me share my life with you! Thank you for letting me inspire you and what’s more, thank you for inspiring me! Your blogs have inspired some of what I have written and has also inspired me to live better and love more. I am so thankful for WordPress and every single person I have interacted with. The book reviews, recipes, videos, photos, stories, poems, life lessons, etc have all made such a huge impact on my life. So, thank you again for your continued support and your friendship!

Challenge accepted: A sort of blog philosophy

Paul Davis, upon my request, issued me a challenge. I am to write, as he put it, a sort of blog philosophy. I am to write about what message I am hoping to convey with my blog, the whole point of blogs, and how I feel people ought to use them. Well, Paul…I accept the challenge.

First, what is my intended message that I wish to convey to those who happen to stumble across my blog? Well, this all started because my friend Courtney suggested I start a blog to share my life experiences with others because she thinks I can inspire others, give them hope and courage to get through their own struggles. I thought that sounded like a pretty good idea. No longer does my past hinder me, instead I let it teach me, help me grow, and inspire others to push through their own struggles.

My life has been quite the ride thus far, full of lots of joy, laughter, hope, and love….but also full of lots of pain, heartache, abuse, confusion, and anger. For a long time, I let my past hold me back. I beat myself up over my countless mistakes and wondered what the point of trying succeed and have a good life was. I was just doomed to fail in the end, as I seemed to always do. I was definitely one of my worst enemies. I let other’s judgments hold me back. I gave them control when it was never theirs to have.

I was ignored and emotionally abused by my mother, sexually abused by her boyfriend, made a ward of the state, emotionally abused by my father, made fun of in school, used/lied to/cheated on by guys, taken advantage of by so called friends, sat in jail for fines I never paid off when I should have, and so on. I also hurt a lot of people in the wake of all of this. Confused and hurt, I tore myself and others down. I lied, cheated, and stole to get what I thought I wanted. I wanted to be loved and accepted, though I never even accepted myself.

I have grown up a lot, especially in the last year. Dealing with cleaning and gutting my grandma’s house and now taking care of her has really made me mature. I see and read about so many people who have struggled and many who currently do with overcoming their past. I once thought I was a lost cause, but now I know that’s not the case and I know it’s not the case for anyone else. When Courtney made the suggestion to start a blog to tell my story, share my adventures with others, a light went on inside my head. If I can help even one person through a rough time, it’s worth it. I am to be a beacon for others, to show love and compassion, to help, to be a friend. So, that’s it…my long winded answer to what message I want my blog to give: hope.

What is the point of blogs? My opinion is this, it varies. Thousands upon thousands of people blog, all over the world, in many languages, and speak about many different things. Some don’t even speak, they just share photos. In the end though, I suppose there is one main thing that ties us together. We’re all here to share of ourselves. Whether it’s a music video, a piece of art, a book review, poetry, bible verses, venting about a rough day, telling jokes, guess that photo game, etc etc….it’s all a glimpse into the personality of the poster. Whether they intend for people to read their blog or not, they know it’s on the internet and so the possibility is there for people to see it, and start to follow it. We share a piece of ourselves each time we post anything. We open ourselves up to criticism, praise, debate, and so on. The point of blogging is to share and to connect with others. If you wish it to be strictly private, you’d make it so no one could read it…keep a journal if you will. To be online and have it open to the public means you’re willingly sharing of yourself. So yeah, that’s my opinion…we blog to share.

How should a blog be used? Well, I feel it should be used in a positive manner. One should not blog to tear others down, to make a fool out of others where millions of people can see it, and should not be used unlawfully. What is posted is up to the blogger, but hopefully they use common sense and have a sense of decency when they share. Attacking others verbally, in my eyes, is abuse and it’s wrong enough outside the world of blogging….but then once online and millions can see it….not only can it not be taken back, but it’s public, and will leave a lasting impression on so many people. A healthy debate, fine. Many post about difficult tops like views on religion, politics, raising kids, adoption, war, etc…that’s just fine, keeping in mind that the poster is hopefully mature about it. Name calling is childish. It’s done often, people get defensive, and fight over someone’s post. I don’t feel that a blog should be used for that purpose. Take it outside people, get away from prying eyes. You really want to have a heated conversation with someone….find a way to chat privately with them. It’s so awkward to read a post and then see the arguing underneath. The poster probably knew there was a chance that would happen, but the ones starting the fight are no less to blame. It is not my right to tell people how to behave, online or off, but I was given the challenge to express my views. I view blog sites as a place to share, connect, network, and make friends….not fight and make enemies. I know no one agrees with anyone all of the time and to have a healthy debate is great, I just wish there was less fighting and immaturity. Sometimes it’s like being in school all over again, seeing the big fight on the playground. Some are egging them on, some ran and hid, some just passively watched, some placed bets, and others managed to ignore the whole thing. While I feel it is good to keep a part of our childhood alive and be youthful from time to time, some parts of it should be left on the proverbial playground. 😉 With all of that said: Share, laugh, debate, blog on…

I have been nominated for a Very Inspiring Blogger Award….

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I have been nominated by http://thereporterandthegirl.com/ for a Very Inspiring Blogger Award and I first wanted to thank her for the nomination and invite all my followers to check out her blog. 🙂

Here are the rules of the award:
1.) Display the award logo on your blog.
2.) Link back to the person who nominated you.
3.) State 7 things about yourself.
4.) Nominate 15 bloggers for this award.
5.) Notify those bloggers of the nomination by linking to one of their specific posts so that they get notified by ping back.

So, per the rules, I need to state seven facts about myself. So, here they are:

1. My favorite color is green, greens like emerald, forest, hunter, etc.

2. I have a 10 year old son who is my light, my life.

3. I love to sing.

4. My bowling average is 110.

5. I have a wonderful boyfriend named, Doug.

6. I live in Milwaukee, WIsconsin.

7. I am so blessed and honored to be a part of the WordPress community and have very much enjoyed reading and participating. Keep writing!

Next, I must nominate 15 bloggers who I feel are deserving of this same award. So, I would like to nominate these 15 people for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award:

http://quotily.wordpress.com

http://lesleycarter.wordpress.com

http://morningstoryanddilbert.wordpress.com

http://tracielouisephotography.net

http://eyedancers.wordpress.com

http://terrificmed.wordpress.com

http://thebettermanprojects.com

http://thoughtstalesandwhatnot.wordpress.com

http://nostroviawriting.wordpress.com

http://thebeliefblog.com

http://daivasnotes.wordpress.com

http://5kidswdisabilities.com

http://onceamonth4ladies.com

http://pregoandtheloon.wordpress.com

http://thejournalfiles.wordpress.com

Check out these awesome blogs! They have amazing stories, life lessons, laughs, and so much more to share with you!!! Happy reading! And thank you again for the nomination, The Girl, I happily and graciously accept it. Thanks to all who have supported this endeavor and most importantly, thank you to my friend Courtney Wiher who got me to start blogging on WordPress!

❤ Much love ❤

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