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I feel like many only skim over blogs and don’t take the time to fully read them. So many times, I see blogs that ask people for their input and people just simply “like” the blog, but don’t leave any feedback. I think that’s wrong. If we’re really going to be a part of this community, we should share more with one another and I don’t mean just writing more blogs, but commenting on one another’s work and becoming something bigger, something greater, something with more heart.

Yesterday, I wrote such a blog, one that asked for feedback and not one person answered the question I posed. Why? Why did everyone simply hit “like” and then continue to scroll past? I don’t want to just write blogs and have people lightly read what I have to say. I want people to engage in conversation with me and with others. I try to participate in other’s blogs as often as I can, even spark conversations with others that commented. This is a community, one that should be ready to grow together. We need to work on doing that more. I am guilty of it too sometimes, but I am getting better at it.

So, I am going to try this again and see if anyone is really paying attention to what I am saying. Yesterday, I asked those who happen to read it that day who their greatest influence in life is and why. I am going to pose that same question today. Today though, I am kindly asking for you to comment, to actually participate. I want to get to know my readers and anyone else who might stumble upon my blog. I am here for so much more than sharing my thoughts and feelings. I want to get to know others, be inspired by you, and hopefully inspire you as well. Let’s work together to make this place even better!

I am going to pose another question today as well. And the proof that you’ve really read this will be in your comments below. 😉 We all have events in our lives that shape us into who we are today. I want you to take a moment and think about what is one of the events in your life that has shaped you the most and how has it done so? Please share with me and with others. Me and myself want to know, and my avid readers!  Side note: That was a Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire quote! 10 points to the house that can tell me who said it! 😉

I have had a lot of major events in my life that have shaped me into the person I am today. It is hard to say which one has shaped me the most, but I am going to pick one, because otherwise we’d be here all day. 😉 Being a foster kid was definitely an experience I won’t forget. I had been molested as a kid and had to be taken from my home. That in and of itself shaped me quite a bit. I live with PTSD because of it, but I have been learning to not let it define me. But that’s not the experience I want to delve into today. Being a foster kid is something I want to talk to you about today.

I have seen many stories on Facebook lately from foster parents, about the kids they have taken in, and how rewarding it is to help kids in need. Those not in it for the money, but in it to help kids overcome the hands they were dealt, show them love, and give them good lives are truly amazing people. I lived in a few homes and I can testify that there are some truly wonderful people out there, with kind hearts that just want to help kids heal and see them thrive.

For many kids, it’s not an easy adjustment, even if the new situation is better than their old one. To take them from what they know and throw them into something and somewhere new with people they don’t know is hard. Trust is already a hard thing for them to give anyone and now here are new people who claim they only have their best interests at heart.

For me, it was hard. As hard as life was with my mom, I wasn’t sure what to think about being sent to live with people I didn’t know, especially when I’d also have to switch schools too. Everyone was a stranger. It took me awhile to adjust and being labeled a freak for being “in the system” was difficult. “What did you do to get put into foster care?” Really? Most of us didn’t do anything. Many of us were hurt, by those who are supposed to love us the most. But, it was and I am sure still is hard for outsiders to understand. I was told before that it was likely the only way they could react to us because they just didn’t know what to say or how to act. But, to a kid, that doesn’t make us feel any better. It still hurts.

I will say this though, I am grateful to those who took me in, cared for me, and did everything they could to help me move forward. I was shown a lot of patience and kindness in a time when I had known so little before. I was given hope. And now, as an adult, I know that I want to give back, to help others like I was helped. When we’re in a position to give back in that way, we will. My husband supports this as he knows how important it is to me and also wants to help kids who feel lost and alone, give them a chance at a happy childhood and the hope for a bright future.

Well, I said more than I planned on, though that is often the case with me. 😉 I hope you enjoyed reading. Now, if you’d be so kind and leave me some feedback and also share with me a part of yourself, that would so appreciated!!!!!! Let’s keep this community growing closer together!


Comments on: "A Question I Ask Thee…" (29)

  1. I want you to know that you are 100 right. Last week I was not able to read the blog I follow and since I was at work I only hit like, I am all about honesty so yeah I did it. Even though I have an infinity of work I will do the best I can’t not just to comment but know my readers. With that said, the event that change my life was the last time I attempted to end my life. All I wanted was to release my soul. To be free. I love you and you are ana amazing person l. Sorry if I stop my comment abruptly, but the thought of it got me a little anxious and teary eye. Once again you are amazing

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  2. You know friend, there is pain in your post, I know I cannot heal your past, nor give you peace, but one can whom if you allow me I can lead you to him.
    He is Christos, a person anointed by God, His name is Jesus
    He died on the cross,
    I did not go to a foster home,
    Through my childhood was hard
    Pains made me hate more
    When my parents used me to wash away their hurts
    I know I hated them forevermore
    I hated my own life
    Went into depression, severe of its kind
    Everyday tried to fake my smile
    When my life became death
    And death became a lie
    The only truth that I was living is
    Was How can I die?
    Doctors and therapists
    Visit them many,
    None seems to heal the past out of me.
    Last when I gave all hope, all thoughts of living was gone
    For I was already dead, my flesh was just caring me around
    I fell on my knees, and ask God
    Look upon Oh Lord on me
    For I will be dead anyways
    If you do not rescue me
    The days were nearing to the passion of my Lord My Jesus Christ
    So He washed my feet on Thursday and made me feel alive
    Friday on the Holy Week, when His passion was severe
    He looked on me from that cross and said, come near
    I came and prayed Lord have mercy
    He said, your sins are forgiven, Go in peace
    From that day, He made me new
    A new Adam, A new Eve, Through I am a Man in flesh
    Still I live in Spirit, Spirit has no gender
    No death, for the Lord has rescued me
    He gave me eternal life, when he died for me
    He said go and tell the word that I have risen from the death
    That all those who will come may take shelter under my shed
    Tell them to come near me when they are weary and dry
    For I will give them a water, that will give them eternal life.
    God Bless you my dear friend.
    Be Alive in the Name of Jesus, I tell you Be Alive.

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  3. I can’t think of one major thing that shaped my life; I’d say the sum of every experience has made me who I am today ☺

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    • Fair enough 🙂 You’re definitely right too, everything, good and bad, shapes us into who we’re going to be. Thanks for commenting, lady!


  4. Apologies for not commenting. I often want to and simply run out of time.

    The greatest influence on my life is the Word of God. My four wonderful children come in second (and are often the reason I don’t have time to comment or read as many blogs as I would like).

    It is a great topic for discussion!

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    • I hear ya, it happens to me too. I think I was just so frustrated because not one person had stopped to comment. I felt, a little hurt. But, I know people get busy. I am guilty of it sometimes too, hate it when that happens. I want the people I subscribe to to know that I really do read what they have to say. I have kids myself and lots to do, so I can relate to not always having time, but I am working on getting better. I am just trying to get to know people on here and help our community grow. Thank you for coming back and commenting, I really appreciate it! Many blessings to you and your lovely family! ❤

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  5. It’s tough to always be diligent and spark conversations (and we’re all guilty of this).

    Thank you for sharing your story. I find that it helps others with similar experiences, and for you to write on it really speaks to your growth as an individual.

    The person that has influenced my life the most would be my father. He’s just such a humble person who makes an effort to put himself in others’ shoes in all situations.

    Someone I cared for deeply decided to walk out of my life. I was devastated. But through that experience, I have learned more about myself than I would have otherwise.

    Thank you for sharing and for your questions!

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    • You’re right, we’re all guilty of it and I guess I shouldn’t be so hurt when people don’t comment. I am just trying to get this community to grow and thrive, getting to know one another and making it about more than just clicking like, you know? Thank you for taking the time to share with us! Your dad sounds like an amazing man and I am glad you have had him to inspire and influence you!!!!

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  6. Monica Marie said:

    It’s was a pleasure reading your first post and having it be so passionate touching. I love your perspective, and am looking forward to growing with you and the community. To answers your first question I would say, God, and my partner are my biggest influences. God gets me through everything, and my partner ambition,creativity,love and joy influences my own. The second question is a little similar to yours, at 7 I was left with my grandparent due to mishaps happening in my parents life. I say similar, because I felt the loneliness and depression of losing the ones you love and no one can make it for it. For a while I couldn’t understand, but now in grateful as to how everything worked out. I have more than I could ever finish Thanking God for, and it’s that experience that made me wiser & invincible. Glad you grew up to wanting to help others kids as well, as to we know the love, care, and kindness they desire 🙂

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    • Thank you for sharing with us, Monica! God sure is an amazing influence and inspiration, can’t argue with that! I’m glad you have a great partner in your life as well. It’s truly a great blessing to have a wonderful partner by your side, one that is there through everything, not just the good times. I’m sorry for what you went through, not easy to be sure. I’m glad however for who you’ve become! I’m honored to meet you!

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      • Monica Marie said:

        Yes I agree 100% it is a blessing having one another. No worries, I’m grateful. My only wish it to share my message with the kids who hurt for those reason. I want to give them a story as to why to be happy no matter what! Time passes, things Change, and they can make it, they can live their dreams and be an inspiration in our world. Thank you CarissaMarie, likewise!

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      • Indeed, they can and no doubt they will with someone like you to guide them! ♡

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      • Monica Marie said:

        So sweet of you to say, thanks for sharing your story, and remind me of the things that truly matter!
        You have Awesome Post Clarissa Have a blessed day 😊

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      • And thank you for making it that much better! I wish the same for you, Monica! 🙂

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  7. Hi, you’re totally right about people just skimming over posts and not reading the entirety of it. I’ll admit it, I’m actually very guilty of this. But I promise I’ll try to improve. Now, coming to your post, you’re an extremely brave woman. Despite an uneasy childhood, you track down love in your surroundings and that’s just beautiful! So I’ll learn this from you today.

    2 years ago I broke up with my boyfriend of five years. I don’t have one bad word to say to him, he wasn’t at fault. But I just wasn’t in love! He felt betrayal and things took a nasty, nasty turn. I can never forget the way he shamed me, that was the lowest point in my life. So that, changed me. That was when I realised that people usually wear masks.

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    • We’re definitely all guilty of it, but all we can do is try to do better each day. ♡
      Thank you for your kindness, it is very much appreciated. God sure has tested me over the years and it’s not always easy to love, but I’m committed to keeping that part of me alive and well. Without it, I feel I’d be empty.

      Your story is one that takes courage to talk about as well. You opened up to me and shared with all who read this a painful part of your past. Thank you for doing so!

      Many wear masks, but some are simply hiding pieces of themselves so they don’t get hurt. The trick is finding those that are capable of dropping them, opening up, and being able to love and be loved. That takes an insurmountable amount of courage, to show someone who they really are, scars, flaws, insecurities, demons, fears, hopes, dreams, ideas, and feelings. Opening up leaves us vulnerable, but it’s worth the risk to discover others and learn more about ourselves. Sometimes we get hurt, but putting the mask back on doesn’t really shield us from pain, but keeps us from love and all that lay before us to explore.

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  8. Carissa Marie I am happy to have stumbled across your post. I have just started my own blog and have been searching for people with similar interests and thoughts. Though I have read all the Harry Potter books without opening it up, I cannot tell you who said your quote. Sorry. But… what I can tell you is that I do not come from foster care. I have two parents and two sisters. Yet, I always felt like an outsider and I can honestly empathize with your situation, even though it is not the same. I never felt like I belonged in my family even though they are my blood. I was always the black sheep. I square peg in a round hole. Although there have been many events in my life that have deeply affected the person I am today, the most defining one was when my parents (mostly my Mom) threw me out of the house. I was homeless and had no one I where to go or anyone that could help. It all started because I was dating a guy who told me that he was moving out of his parent’s house. He took me to an animal shelter (North Shore Animal League) and told me to pick out a puppy. As a dog lover, that was the best present I could have ever wished for. After getting the puppy and instantly falling in love with him, I found out that my boyfriend was a pathological liar. He never planned on leaving his parents home. Returning to my house my mother informed me that either I get rid of the puppy or leave. Since my life pretty much sucked at home, I figured there was only one choice! That puppy saved my life! Although it was one of the most difficult times I ever had faced, it was also the most freeing. It was rough I cannot lie, and there were many difficult years that followed. Nonetheless, I would not take it back for the world. It made me grow up very quickly. I learned that I was a survivor. I became aware of life struggles and found myself to be among the many whose life took a different turn than expected. That I was part of a statistic, I like tons of others was forced into a challenges not by choice but by circumstance. It has been over thirty years since that time and there is not a day that goes by that I don’t remember what that felt like. I am proud of my choices and believe that it has made me the person I am today. I recently published my first picture book of a series of five that deals with “life struggles”. They were written from my personal experiences and those I have witnessed from my rescued animals. The books teach children at a very young age to learn compassion, understanding, and acceptance to those (humans and animals) that are faced with unexpected life situations. It is made to help parents talk to their kids (there are questions at the end of every story) and open a dialogue. I applaud you in embracing your life and all that you have been through by understanding and helping others with your stories and how you have risen above it all. Thank you for sharing and asking for others to share their stories as well.

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    • We can either let our pasts define us or we can let them help us grow and help others who face difficult times to find hope. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I’m glad you felt you could open up to me. It takes courage to do that. You’ve come very far and you should find strength in that knowledge. You have a good heart and I’m glad our paths have crossed.


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