So I just celebrated a year with WordPress and now today, I reached the 200 milestone for the number of people who read and support my blog! 200 people read what I have to say? Seriously! Wow, I am dumbfounded sometimes by all that has transpired here in a year’s time and by the amount of love and support I have found by joining this community. Thanks once more for the continued support of my blog, seriously, thank you. I am so blessed.
Archive for July, 2013
I was reading my friend’s blog today and the question she asked us was, “What makes someone sexy?” I replied and she liked my answer, said I needed to share this and so here I am, sharing it with you as requested. 😉
But before I do, I would like you to check out Ionia’s blog. Read what people had to say and maybe give her your own feedback. Also, she does some awesome book reviews and has other amazing topics to discuss as well. 🙂
Now onto what I had to say to her blog….what makes someone sexy in my eyes? Well, let me tell you just that….
Oh my goodness, there are so many good responses that I have read. Each has their own definition and well, mine goes along with what some have already said and more.
I do agree that upon seeing someone for the first time, initially looks have a lot to do with it. Though, as also stated before, an ugly personality can ruin any amount of good looks. To me, someone who is truly sexy is someone I am attracted to both their physical appearance and their personality. I have met people who I find physically appealing, but upon getting to know them, I can’t stand them. I have also met some people with wonderful personalities that while I do love them and know God finds beauty everywhere, I don’t personally find them sexy. It really is a combination of so many things….
I too have been attracted to musicians. If you can play an instrument and/or sing really well, I have been known to draw to them like a moth to a flame. Oddly enough, the man I fell head over heels with and so happy with now is NOT a musician, though he does have an intense love for music. Common interests definitely plays a role in things.
Confidence does as well, as long as it doesn’t go from being confident, loving who you are, and sure of yourself to arrogance. One who takes care of themselves and takes pride in their appearance is important, just don’t come across as thinking you’re the greatest there is.
Kindness, a sense of sincere compassion towards others is a huge factor for me. Be one who is going to take care of themselves, but also be more than willing to lend a helping hand to someone in need, to be there for their friends, family, and community. A warm heart really does win me over.
Being able to speak your mind when needed is huge too, must be able to communicate, but also that ability to be confident in their silence as well is not to be overlooked.
As far as looks go, I tend to gravitate towards people with brown hair, striking eyes, and a warm smile. I can also appreciate a man who has nice muscles and lean, but firm figure…..not to be overdone though….just healthy and in shape. I don’t seek bodybuilders and such. I am happy the love of my life takes pride in his appearance and staying in shape. He also motivates me to do the same, another factor I find totally appealing….his genuine care for my health and well-being, as much as he cares about his own.
Being able to handle me, deal with my insane family, and keep calm is very big with me too. I am a bit much sometimes, but if you can stay patient, keep calm, and weather everything with me….you have earned some major sexy points.
And yes, laughter….being able to smile, laugh, and find the joy in life is a MUST! There are times to be serious, you must be able to take care of things, know when to buckle down, know when not to make a joke of things….but if you’re too tightly laced, it doesn’t matter how gorgeous you first appear….I’ll soon look away. Being able to make me laugh is so important…..lucky to have found someone who knows how to make me laugh, even when my day is so very dark. Never overlook that factor in someone….their ability to make you smile and laugh.
There are the lists that tell you who are today’s sexiest people….and some of them certainly make ya go…oh yeah, yum….but, ya wonder…if we were to actually meet them and get to know them….how many would we still say are legitimately sexy? Take away the cameras, make-up, fancy clothes, and strip them down to who they really are….who would we befriend? Who would we find as sexy inside as we do out? I wonder that from time to time….
That concludes what I had to say….for now. 😉 And if you’d like to chime in here as well, feel free. I’d like to know what you find truly sexy in another human being….
I joined WordPress a year ago, really? Time sure does fly! Thanks again to my friend Courtney who encouraged me to join. I have thoroughly enjoyed being a part of this community! Thank you once again, guys and dolls, for reading my blog! Thank you for the support you have shown me and thank you for your wisdom, advice, new perspectives, friendship, and love…offered both on my blog and within reading yours as well!
A lot has changed in a year! Some bad things have happened, but through all of that, I have grown stronger as a person, as a Christian, as a friend, and so on. I have also learned who my real friends are and together, we have seen one another through the hard times. Many good things have happened as well and those things have served to keep me humble, optimistic even in the darkest of times, and reminding me of how very blessed I am.
A life devoid of the things that brings one joy isn’t truly living, it’s merely existing. Never deny oneself joy, happiness, or peace. Also never depend on another to give you those things. To have joy with others is a plus and an amazing thing, but one needs to have that within themselves first and always.
Life really is what one makes of it, the choice of what yours will become is up to you. Circumstances don’t define us, what we do, and how we get through them does. I choose to overcome the dark times, shine a light and make it through. I choose to hold my head up high and work for the good things in life, not just daydream about them. I refuse to let success make me arrogant. While I have earned things in life, I choose not flaunt them. I instead hope to encourage others and show them how to achieve their goals as well. I am so far from perfect, but I do the best with what I have, with who I am, and continue to work on becoming a better person than I was the day before. I hope my blog reflects even a glimmer of who I am and that it inspires even one of you, as what many of you have had to say continues to inspire me. Thank you for a great year and here’s to another amazing one ahead!
Many couples have a song
One that they feel describes their relationship
We never bothered to find one that suits us
Upon reflecting on that now
I realize there isn’t one yet made
There are countless love songs
Many that are beautifully written
But none that we both relate to
One that we both feel describes what we have
Perhaps then we must create our own
What we share is so wondrous
It’s beyond words
I shall try though to convey our story
Show the world our love
May it forever shine brightly in these verses
For years, I dreamed of my own Cinderella story
Finding my prince and riding away into the sunset
Living happily ever after in a perfect animated world
Though in those stories
You only get to the beginning of their journey
What happens to the prince and princess years later?
What does their love overcome?
I always wanted to know more
Because it’s about more than falling in love
It’s about staying there too
Upon meeting you, it wasn’t love at first sight
It took time before even our friendship would bloom
Getting to know you though was quite the journey
One I don’t feel will ever really end
In fact, I feel it’s only just begun
Over time, respect was earned
As our friendship grew
Other feelings began to surface
Though we both hesitated to act
Each had our own reservations
Many saw what we did not
The potential for something beautiful and true
Between me and you
Eventually we both saw it for ourselves
And in time we decided to give “us” a try
Like turned to love
No longer written on the pages of a fairy-tale
It became something real
Something enduring, something meant to last
Built upon a solid foundation of friendship
You’re my best friend and I am yours
Walking the winding roads together
Weathering life’s storms
Loss, grief, sorrow, hardships
Hand in hand, we’ve seen one another through
Laughter, joy, celebration, and hope
Both as individuals and as a pair
Looking at where we are now
I don’t mind the road I had to take to get here
Our song isn’t your traditional love song
But it is as beautiful as any other
One to be listened to over and over
May all who hear it know where we’ve been
Where we are and where we will be
I love you, Doug.
Happy nine months
On July 16th, 2013
Many of my former years seemed to be cast in shadow. There’d be glimmers of light now and then, reminding me that one day I’d find my way out of the darkness. One day I’d have grown enough, enough to do what needs to be done, enough to fight for the life I’d only seen in my sweetest of dreams.
Sometimes life is taxing. Sometimes I deal with things on a particular day that knocks the wind out of my sails. We all deal with rough days, eh? Overall though, my life is good, very good in fact. My life may not always be easy, but then no one sails calm waters every day of their life…but I can say that it is beautiful.
I have so much to be grateful for. I have a handsome 10 year old son who is starting fifth grade once our summer inevitably passes by too quickly. 😉 He can be beyond a handful, but he is my greatest gift from God. He is so talented, intelligent, witty, and when he wants to…he has a heart of gold. I am beyond proud of my kiddo for how far he has come over the years, for how smart he is, and for how amazing he is.
I have the best boyfriend in the history of boyfriends. He is my best friend, the first one I go to when I am having my roughest of days and when I have the best of news to celebrate. He is supportive, patient, kind, and treats me with respect and love….in a way I’d never known before. He is my love, the one whom still gives me butterflies just by smiling his silly and sweet smile, by taking my hand and interlocking our fingers when we walk, by kissing me, and well by just being him. He is part of my family, one I would do anything for, and one whom I am proud to show to all I love. We haven’t truly argued in the time we have been together. Even still after living together now and seeing how we are day in and day out, with our masks strewn upon the floor…we still communicate the way we always have….telling one another how we feel about something and letting the other voice their side as well. When we disagree, we try our best to compromise and usually, we’re able to meet in the middle. When we can’t, we don’t belittle the other or fight, we just agree to disagree. All major areas of our life are things we agree on, so this helps. We both love God, our families, our friends, and do what we can to better ourselves and those around us. I have never been as happy as I am now and I thank God each day He gives us to spend together.
Something else to be grateful for is how my son and Doug get along. Zach adores Doug and Doug has been such a positive role model, so grateful that the two most important guys in my life are close. This means more to me than I could ever say. They both mean so much to me and seeing them when they’re talking wrestling, video games, baseball, cars, and just goofing off and being boys melts my heart.
I have a job, not one I am in love with, but one that allows me to pay my bills and actually contribute to the life Doug and I want. It is something that works until something better comes along one day. Early next year, my student loan comes out of default because I will at that point have made enough on time payments on it. Then I can go for my dream in accounting. For now, I work hard, and do what I must. I am grateful to be working, especially knowing that many out there fight to find a job. I am blessed.
Doug and I share a beautiful home, wonderful friends, and also have some pretty awesome family members….some of which have taken to the other and stand behind our relationship as well as us as individuals. I am blessed, he is blessed, well…we are blessed. Yes, life is good.
I encourage each of you to look at your lives and take a moment to think of the goodness. Sometimes it becomes really rough for us to find the joy, but it can always be found if we try. I want to thank each of you again who supports my blog. Thank you for the kind words, the encouragement, the friendship, the advice, the laughter, and the love. You have made more of a difference in my life than you know. I love you, my WordPress family, so much. God bless each of you and yours. ❤
It’s been awhile since I have posted and just wanted to check in to let you all know I am alive and well. 😉
I have been working at my job for three weeks now and that has been keeping me pretty busy. On top of that, I still care for my grandma. I go to work, then go do what I need to go for Grandma, & then I come home to clean and cook here. 😉 I haven’t had much “free time” as it were and when I do, I try to relax. Life is hectic, but you know, it is good.
I hope all is well with the rest of you. I do miss you guys and dolls. I will have to catch up on some of your posts later. Though for now, it is time to go and have dinner with my family. Take care everyone and God bless. I love you.