Paul Davis, upon my request, issued me a challenge. I am to write, as he put it, a sort of blog philosophy. I am to write about what message I am hoping to convey with my blog, the whole point of blogs, and how I feel people ought to use them. Well, Paul…I accept the challenge.
First, what is my intended message that I wish to convey to those who happen to stumble across my blog? Well, this all started because my friend Courtney suggested I start a blog to share my life experiences with others because she thinks I can inspire others, give them hope and courage to get through their own struggles. I thought that sounded like a pretty good idea. No longer does my past hinder me, instead I let it teach me, help me grow, and inspire others to push through their own struggles.
My life has been quite the ride thus far, full of lots of joy, laughter, hope, and love….but also full of lots of pain, heartache, abuse, confusion, and anger. For a long time, I let my past hold me back. I beat myself up over my countless mistakes and wondered what the point of trying succeed and have a good life was. I was just doomed to fail in the end, as I seemed to always do. I was definitely one of my worst enemies. I let other’s judgments hold me back. I gave them control when it was never theirs to have.
I was ignored and emotionally abused by my mother, sexually abused by her boyfriend, made a ward of the state, emotionally abused by my father, made fun of in school, used/lied to/cheated on by guys, taken advantage of by so called friends, sat in jail for fines I never paid off when I should have, and so on. I also hurt a lot of people in the wake of all of this. Confused and hurt, I tore myself and others down. I lied, cheated, and stole to get what I thought I wanted. I wanted to be loved and accepted, though I never even accepted myself.
I have grown up a lot, especially in the last year. Dealing with cleaning and gutting my grandma’s house and now taking care of her has really made me mature. I see and read about so many people who have struggled and many who currently do with overcoming their past. I once thought I was a lost cause, but now I know that’s not the case and I know it’s not the case for anyone else. When Courtney made the suggestion to start a blog to tell my story, share my adventures with others, a light went on inside my head. If I can help even one person through a rough time, it’s worth it. I am to be a beacon for others, to show love and compassion, to help, to be a friend. So, that’s it…my long winded answer to what message I want my blog to give: hope.
What is the point of blogs? My opinion is this, it varies. Thousands upon thousands of people blog, all over the world, in many languages, and speak about many different things. Some don’t even speak, they just share photos. In the end though, I suppose there is one main thing that ties us together. We’re all here to share of ourselves. Whether it’s a music video, a piece of art, a book review, poetry, bible verses, venting about a rough day, telling jokes, guess that photo game, etc etc….it’s all a glimpse into the personality of the poster. Whether they intend for people to read their blog or not, they know it’s on the internet and so the possibility is there for people to see it, and start to follow it. We share a piece of ourselves each time we post anything. We open ourselves up to criticism, praise, debate, and so on. The point of blogging is to share and to connect with others. If you wish it to be strictly private, you’d make it so no one could read it…keep a journal if you will. To be online and have it open to the public means you’re willingly sharing of yourself. So yeah, that’s my opinion…we blog to share.
How should a blog be used? Well, I feel it should be used in a positive manner. One should not blog to tear others down, to make a fool out of others where millions of people can see it, and should not be used unlawfully. What is posted is up to the blogger, but hopefully they use common sense and have a sense of decency when they share. Attacking others verbally, in my eyes, is abuse and it’s wrong enough outside the world of blogging….but then once online and millions can see it….not only can it not be taken back, but it’s public, and will leave a lasting impression on so many people. A healthy debate, fine. Many post about difficult tops like views on religion, politics, raising kids, adoption, war, etc…that’s just fine, keeping in mind that the poster is hopefully mature about it. Name calling is childish. It’s done often, people get defensive, and fight over someone’s post. I don’t feel that a blog should be used for that purpose. Take it outside people, get away from prying eyes. You really want to have a heated conversation with someone….find a way to chat privately with them. It’s so awkward to read a post and then see the arguing underneath. The poster probably knew there was a chance that would happen, but the ones starting the fight are no less to blame. It is not my right to tell people how to behave, online or off, but I was given the challenge to express my views. I view blog sites as a place to share, connect, network, and make friends….not fight and make enemies. I know no one agrees with anyone all of the time and to have a healthy debate is great, I just wish there was less fighting and immaturity. Sometimes it’s like being in school all over again, seeing the big fight on the playground. Some are egging them on, some ran and hid, some just passively watched, some placed bets, and others managed to ignore the whole thing. While I feel it is good to keep a part of our childhood alive and be youthful from time to time, some parts of it should be left on the proverbial playground. 😉 With all of that said: Share, laugh, debate, blog on…